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Saturday, March 9, 2013

Love You Dad...



 
Today was an emotional one.  i visited my mom and dad with both of my brothers and sister inlaws.  i usually try to avoid this sort of visit as much as possible as it's kind of uncomfortable for me.  i went though because as i've posted in the past, my Dad has alzheimers and is slowly but steadily getting worse.  Today it just worked out that we could all be there. 

We did the normal, lunch out then back to the house where we just chatted and reminisced.  my Dad was mostly quiet.  my oldest brother did a lot of trying to bring up old stuff, stories that have been shared through the years.  Dad seemed a bit aggitated by this though, so we didn't push it.  He did a lot of dozing in His chair, though He did laugh at a story or a joke now and then.

When it was finally time to go, i was the last to hug my Dad, and He did something i've never seen or had Him do before.  As i hugged Him, i said my normal "i love You" and my Dad, instead of His typical, "I love you too" grabbed my arm as i turned to walk away, pulled me to Him, looked me in the eye and said, "I love you" with so much emotion and intensity that i felt almost an electrical charge go through my body. 

Of course we both know, He's afraid that maybe next time He won't remember me?  That this will be one of the last times we are all together with Him still with us mentally.

i took a picture of Him and mom, my mom was so tender and loving in the photo, going to Him and kneeling at His side, despite her 88 years, on her knees holding Him.  Despite her determination to keep Him, you can see it in His eyes in that picture, somethings are already gone. He's slipping away from her, from us, from Himself...

He was never Daddy or Pops or even someone i didn't feel fearful of growing up, but He was always there, providing, leading and being the Man He was raised to be.  Despite missing having the kind of relationship i wished we could of had when i was a kid...i know He is now proud of me, that He worries about me, and that He'd give anything for me to be happy.

i love You Dad, and i hope that the future is kind and that we can provide You with all that You need to have quality of life while You are here with us and that when it comes time for You to leave us, You are ready for all that comes next...
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Quiz Results: What kind of Little are you?

What kind of Little are you?
Your Result: Princess
 

You are Daddy's little Princess!!!!! Your daddy adores you and spoils you rotten, because you melt him everytime you walk (or crawl) :) into the room!

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It had been a while since i'd last read the following article. Many people ask me about bdsm and why i enjoy it...not understanding my desire to be with a Dominant. It is hard to put into words exactly what it's about ... but this article does a wonderful job of explaining it.Daddy/little girl does not refer to the ages, real or pretend, of the participants. Nor does it imply closet desires. In my relationship my Dom is not my father, he is nothing like my father, and I have no need for him to replace my father. He is however my Daddy. We do not engage in age play specifically ( beyond the occasional school girl fantasy *s*) and our relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children. I am always all woman, and always a very independent woman.He does have the ability to make me feel like a little girl, however, a very cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling that I revel in, it is the safest place I have ever been, and it allows me the freedom to be all that I am without fear of reprisals. Daddy Dom is a feeling, an environment that two people have created. A Daddy Dom is so named because of the qualities he possesses and the service he provides.So, what are these qualities? What is a Daddy Dom?A Daddy Dom wants to be the center of your universe. He wants to be able to provide for your every need and care. But more than that he wants to be able to shape and mold you to the image he thinks you should become. He sees in you someone who can achieve a much higher, much greater status. He believes more in you than you believe in yourself. What he wants in return is to be able to bask in his image of you, the image he has created. To achieve these goals he relies on a combination of love, respect, and discipline.His love for his little girl goes without saying. He loves her as much for who she is as for who she will become with his guidance. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him.This love would not be possible without respect. A Daddy Dom needs to feel pride in his little girl. He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to him. He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase it’s value. It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with him.He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, more important than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the little girl to really trust, she must know he means what he says. If his little girl is going to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises.If he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If his submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded. He understands that it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect.This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength todo what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive...acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn’t matter. To him she is beautiful.Daddy Dom and sadistic Dom are by no means mutually exclusive. Many Daddy Doms embrace their sadism while understanding and feeding their submissive's masochism. This balance is necessary to many little girls because it allows all parts of her to be nourished, leading to an incredibly fulfilling relationship.I think most Dominants have a bit of the Daddy in them, taking on the role of male authority figure in the submissive’s life and using their power to enrich that life. Daddy/little girl verbalizes that feeling, and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that it’s participants crave.There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.This article may only be reprinted on private, no fee to access websites as long as this notice accompanies it and the following link is in place: http://www.subspace.cc/