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So many times i've seen Daddy Doms descriptions of who they are and what it means to be a Daddy Dom. While the descriptions they share often contain the ideas that every little longs for in their life.
At the bottom of this very page is the well known description written by a girl named kendra many years ago. It was my first glimpse at who a Daddy Dom is and as soon as i read it i knew that was who i was looking for.
Over the years though, i've learned that as many DD/lg couples there are, that's how many types of relationships there are. Each couple makes their own way, incooporating what works for them. Of course the Daddy Dom has certain characteristics that make Him who He is, just as the little girl has characteristics that cause her to consider herself an lg.
There are many types of lg's out there, but i think the one thing that many of us have in common is the need to be cared for. maybe more or differently than a submissive/slave might have that type of need. As a slave, i have a desire to please and give to my Sir. Without the lg part of me, i think this might take on different "shades" of servitude. However, because of my lg needs, my need to serve and please is also combined with the desire to be treated or cared for as one would a child or favored pet. Often i read of other slaves who are happy and content to sleep on the floor or even in anoth
er room away from their Master, the child part of me however needs to be in His presence, for reassurance and comfort.
Why is this the case? i'm sure it's again different for everyone, but the things that were lacking in my childhood are the things i seek out now in my Daddy Dom. Someone who is caring and considerate and who takes pride in who i am. One who takes the time and makes the effort to guide and set limits for me. Someone who also has expectations of me, and doesn't let me get by with anything i shouldn't.
Daddy Doms by kendra
It had been a while since i'd last read the following article. Many people ask me about bdsm and why i enjoy it...not understanding my desire to be with a Dominant. It is hard to put into words exactly what it's about ... but this article does a wonderful job of explaining it.Daddy/little girl does not refer to the ages, real or pretend, of the participants. Nor does it imply closet desires. In my relationship my Dom is not my father, he is nothing like my father, and I have no need for him to replace my father. He is however my Daddy. We do not engage in age play specifically ( beyond the occasional school girl fantasy *s*) and our relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children. I am always all woman, and always a very independent woman.He does have the ability to make me feel like a little girl, however, a very cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling that I revel in, it is the safest place I have ever been, and it allows me the freedom to be all that I am without fear of reprisals. Daddy Dom is a feeling, an environment that two people have created. A Daddy Dom is so named because of the qualities he possesses and the service he provides.So, what are these qualities? What is a Daddy Dom?A Daddy Dom wants to be the center of your universe. He wants to be able to provide for your every need and care. But more than that he wants to be able to shape and mold you to the image he thinks you should become. He sees in you someone who can achieve a much higher, much greater status. He believes more in you than you believe in yourself. What he wants in return is to be able to bask in his image of you, the image he has created. To achieve these goals he relies on a combination of love, respect, and discipline.His love for his little girl goes without saying. He loves her as much for who she is as for who she will become with his guidance. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him.This love would not be possible without respect. A Daddy Dom needs to feel pride in his little girl. He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to him. He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase it’s value. It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with him.He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, more important than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the little girl to really trust, she must know he means what he says. If his little girl is going to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises.If he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If his submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded. He understands that it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect.This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength todo what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive...acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn’t matter. To him she is beautiful.Daddy Dom and sadistic Dom are by no means mutually exclusive. Many Daddy Doms embrace their sadism while understanding and feeding their submissive's masochism. This balance is necessary to many little girls because it allows all parts of her to be nourished, leading to an incredibly fulfilling relationship.I think most Dominants have a bit of the Daddy in them, taking on the role of male authority figure in the submissive’s life and using their power to enrich that life. Daddy/little girl verbalizes that feeling, and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that it’s participants crave.There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.This article may only be reprinted on private, no fee to access websites as long as this notice accompanies it and the following link is in place: http://www.subspace.cc/
er room away from their Master, the child part of me however needs to be in His presence, for reassurance and comfort. 
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